When someone you love begins to change, the world can feel unsteady. Many families in Garner and across North Carolina come to me when they notice something small at first—a parent forgetting to pay the power bill, missing a doctor’s appointment, or seeming confused by simple instructions. These moments are frightening because they force a hard question: Can my loved one still make safe decisions on their own?

Every year, a few clients tell me the same thing: “We knew we needed to talk about Mom’s care… but we didn’t want to spoil the holiday.” Yet when something happened: a fall, a hospitalization, a sudden memory decline; they wished they had started those conversations earlier.

For most North Carolina families, the home isn’t simply where they live. Tt’s where life happened. It’s where children took their first steps, where holidays were celebrated, and where love and laughter filled the rooms. But for many older adults, the dream of passing that home on to the next generation can feel uncertain when the realities of aging, and the high cost of long-term care, come into view.

The question that keeps many awake at night is simple, yet heartbreaking: Could the nursing home take my house?

If someone you love needs long-term care, it can feel scary and confusing. Rules change. Costs rise. Families worry about losing a home or savings. The good news? With the right plan, you can protect what you’ve built and still get the care you need. This post explains what changed in 2025, what it means in North Carolina, and how you can be the hero of your family’s story by working with an elder law attorney.

In today’s world, much of our lives are lived online. From photo albums stored in the cloud to banking apps on our phones, digital assets have become just as important as the physical ones we keep in a safe or filing cabinet. Yet when it comes to elder law and estate planning, many families overlook this crucial piece of the puzzle. Without proper planning, access to a loved one’s digital life can become complicated, stressful, and, in some cases, impossible.

Every once in a while, tax law changes hit the headlines in a way that forces families to sit up and ask: “Does this affect me?”

For North Carolina families, the One Big Beautiful Bill (OBBB), passed in 2025, is exactly that kind of change. Beginning January 1, 2026, the federal estate and gift tax exemption increases to $15 million per person ($30 million for married couples). And, it’s set to remain that high, indexed for inflation going forward.

That’s good news. But it’s not the whole story. Bigger exemptions don’t mean estate planning goes away. They mean you have new choices. And, if you don’t make them, the law (and the probate court) will make them for you.

It often happens in the blink of an eye. One moment, life feels normal. Then a fall, a stroke, or a sudden illness sends a loved one to the hospital. The doctors recommend skilled nursing care. The family scrambles to find a facility with an open bed. But when the admissions team asks for paperwork, the family stares back in confusion. They don’t have it. The documents the nursing home requires, the ones that give legal authority to make decisions, are missing. Suddenly, an already overwhelming situation turns into a crisis.

Life has a way of surprising us. One moment, our parents are independent and making their own decisions. The next moment, a stroke, accident, or diagnosis can change everything. Suddenly, bills need to be paid, doctors need instructions, and decisions about care cannot wait. But what happens if your parents cannot make decisions anymore and there is no plan in place?

We spend our lives working hard to build financial security for our families. We save for retirement, pay off the mortgage, and set aside money for the future. Yet too many North Carolinians overlook one critical piece of the puzzle: planning for incapacity. What happens if illness, injury, or dementia leaves you unable to manage your own affairs? Without the right legal protections in place, your family could face frozen accounts, expensive court battles, and the loss of hundreds of thousands, or even a million dollars, of your hard-earned wealth.

Gifting assets to family members can feel like a heartfelt gesture. Gifting is a way to help your children buy a home, fund a grandchild’s education, or ensure your legacy stays in the family. But in North Carolina, what may seem like a generous, common-sense move can have surprising tax consequences, jeopardize long-term care eligibility, and even spark family disputes. Before you transfer that deed or write that big check, it’s important to understand the legal, financial, and emotional ripple effects of your decision.

For many North Carolina families, the home is more than just a roof over their heads. It’s the place where generations have gathered for holidays, where children took their first steps, and where stories have been passed down over the years. It’s no wonder that one of the greatest fears families express when facing long-term care decisions is losing that home to nursing home costs. In my work with families across the state, this is a concern I hear often; and it’s a valid one. Without proper planning, the family home may be at risk. But with the right legal strategies in place, it doesn’t have to be.

If you’ve ever thought, “I’ll just add Mom to the deed,” or “Let’s put my daughter on the house so we can avoid probate,” you’re not alone. These quick-fix solutions are common, and they’re often made with the very best intentions. But what most families don’t realize is that DIY planning can cause more harm than good, especially when it comes to real estate and aging parents.

As our parents age, the roles begin to shift. The people who once guided and protected us may start needing our help. This is especially when it comes to legal and financial matters. But knowing when to step in isn’t always obvious. Are they just having a forgetful week, or is it the beginning of something more serious? Is it respectful to bring up legal planning, or is it crossing a line?

These questions haunt many adult children in North Carolina. If you’re noticing changes in your parent’s behavior, health, or ability to manage daily responsibilities, it may be time to take a closer look. Early legal intervention can preserve dignity, protect assets, and prevent painful court battles. Let’s explore five clear signs it’s time to step in; and how the right legal planning can make all the difference.

What is a guardianship—and why should you avoid one?
A guardianship is a legal process where the court appoints someone to make decisions for a person who can no longer manage their own affairs due to incapacity. While it may sound protective, it often comes with court oversight, public proceedings, and the potential for family conflict. Worse, the person chosen by the court might not be the one your parent would have wanted. The good news? With the right legal documents in place, guardianship can often be completely avoided.

If you’re like many of my clients, you may be caring for an aging parent or beginning to see signs that a loved one needs more help than they used to. It’s a tough place to be. You’re juggling your own responsibilities while trying to make the best decisions for someone you love. One of the hardest parts? Figuring out how to pay for long-term care without draining a lifetime of savings or putting the family home at risk. Learn some elder law strategies to protect a parent’s Assets without going broke.

When it comes to protecting your home, savings, and future care, timing is everything — especially when Medicaid is involved. In my work with families across Garner and the surrounding communities, I’ve seen how quickly life can change and how devastating the financial consequences can be when families don’t plan ahead. This blog dives into what you need to know about Medicaid’s complex rules — including the five-year lookback period — and how early planning can be the key to preserving your assets, your choices, and your peace of mind. Whether you're caring for an aging parent or thinking ahead for yourself, now is the time to act — before the clock runs out.

Caregiving is one of the most loving things we can do—but it’s also one of the most exhausting. Whether you're:

• A daughter managing your parent’s medications and bills,

• A husband helping your spouse with daily care, or

• A mom of teens also managing an aging parent’s affairs...

...you know the emotional and physical toll it takes. According to the National Alliance for Caregiving, nearly 1 in 5 adults are unpaid caregivers, many of whom experience burnout, depression, and financial stress.

If you're a North Carolina homeowner or an adult child of aging parents, protecting the family home should be a top priority. Without proper estate planning, your most valuable asset could be lost to probate, Medicaid recovery, or family disputes. In this blog, we’ll explore high-level strategies to preserve generational wealth, avoid costly legal battles, and ensure your home passes smoothly to the next generation. Whether you're in Garner, Raleigh, or anywhere across North Carolina, proactive planning can make all the difference.

Talking about estate planning can be uncomfortable, but avoiding the discussion can lead to unintended consequences. Instead of thinking of it as a legal matter, frame it as a way to honor your parents' wishes and protect their legacy.

Start with open-ended questions like:

• What matters most to you when it comes to your assets and healthcare decisions?

• Who do you trust to make decisions on your behalf if you are unable to?

• Have you documented your wishes in a legal format?

These conversations don’t have to be completed in one sitting. The key is to start early and make it an ongoing dialogue.

If you're caring for an aging parent or planning for your own future, you already know how overwhelming it can be to navigate the world of long-term care, Medicaid, estate planning, and elder law. You want to do what's best—protect assets, ensure proper medical care, and avoid unnecessary legal or financial roadblocks. But without a clear plan, families often find themselves making rushed, expensive decisions in times of crisis.